Recap on My relationship

I had not realized it had been almost two years that have passed prior to my last post. So much has happened, as you probably noticed. I suppose my heart and head have been all over the place that I rarely had the time to sit and write. In any case, I am back. I could probably write about my whole journey with online dating. Oh gosh, the horrors, the rejections, the ghosting, and even the hopeful moments where my heart would get excited with the idea of it working out. Not sure if I will, but I must write about how God used it all to prepare my heart and even my kids for what He had in store for us.

Encouraged by my kids and my coworker I began to get on dating sites around February 2023. And then later, I joined a singles group in Juarez. It had been SOOO long since I had actually had fun and laughed with people close to my age and who share my same faith. This group has been such a blessing to my life and even continues to bless my husband and me. The group met monthly and so the second time I went to the group I ended up giving my now-husband, Jose, a ride to the group since his car had broken down. He was not able to get a new car until 3 months later, so by the third ride he started showing interest in me. The very week he bought a car he called to ask me out on a date.

Jose is very creative and thoughtful. Even though he had not been in a relationship for over 7 years, he tried his best to make a good impression and made it quite clear that he was all in. For our second date, he went all the way to pick me up, which is an hour away from Juarez. He also had a big surprise planned to ask me to be his girlfriend. I was still hesitant but decided to give us a chance, only once my parents approved. He was quick to call them and set up times to meet with them. He got to do it in person with my dad and then made a video call with a dear couple who are like my second set of parents.

I had always imagined I would know and to be honest it was not how I ever imagined it. Not having much experience…if any, it was nothing like my previous relationship, in the since of how I felt. This caused me to doubt myself. I watched TOO MANY chick flicks that when it doesn’t play out that way, you think it might not be right. Yet, I could not be more wrong. Slowly but surely, I fell in love with Jose. He has a deep love for God and has such a compassionate heart and a father’s heart that I knew my kids would be loved. He is also a very patient, trustworthy and an ingenious man!

One of the things we both agreed on was to be transparent. We had difficult conversations and what had deterred others made him appreciate me more. One day, when we were heading into Juarez, it dawned on me that if something were to happen I could count on him. That realization just took me aback. It had been a long time since I felt I had someone who not only was willing and able to, but that would be there for me. Here was someone who had shown with his words and actions that I could depend on him.

After 9 months he proposed, and I said YES! We got married on March 22, 2025. I had finally been able to purchase a house near Rancho 3M, where I work, and since it was basically the shell of a house, we needed to get started on rebuilding it. It felt like an impossible task, but God. One way or another God provided and blessed us with the help needed to get it ready for our move in. Now, it was not all done when we got back from our honeymoon, but we were able to move in and make it work. It is still in progress, but we both love our new home.

That was all in a nutshell. These were big changes, and though there were times it felt unreal, it all felt very natural. The transitions have been smooth overall. There are always challenges and even at the start of our honeymoon, but those challenges just confirmed God had made us for each other. For those who prayed for me to find someone, thank you!  God truly brought into our lives an honorable and loving man.  And for my single friends out there, don’t lose hope. Live life, take chances, and don’t hold back.  Jose and I would not have crossed paths had it not been for all the curves, ups and downs, disappointments, joyful events in our lives that brought us to the point in time.  Trust the Maker and Author of our lives to continue composing your life story.